3 Things you can do not to get tired of your relationship

~ Quit playing games with his/her heart ~

By Connie Podesta

1. Quit thinking it WON’T last.

Going into a relationship thinking it’s doomed means only one thing — it is. Every time things aren’t perfect you’ll feel validated. “ See? I knew it. We didn’t have a chance .”

If you honestly believe relationships will never stand the test of time then the reality is you will sabotage each one to ensure that you are right. You will test each partner to see how much of your bad behavior they can tolerate before finally leaving you as you yell, “I knew you’d never stay” to a slamming door.

If this is you — don’t date until you’ve figured this out.

2. Quit playing games.

You’re mad. Or sad. Or hurt. Your partner asks, “What’s wrong?” And you say, “nothing.” Or yell about something else entirely later that evening. Stupid, childish, relationship-killing games .

Eventually, people keep score. Get even. Withdraw affection. Stop trying to even find an answer.

Instead? Talk to each other! Explain. Listen. Find a solution. Take hurt and anger out of the equation because they are two of the most manipulative, reactive, and dangerous emotions to use while trying to communicate respectfully.

3. Quit thinking love is enough.

In the long run, couples who make it through the good and bad still caring for each other have more going for them than just love . They truly LIKE their partner too. Liking can get you through a lot.

Love is about attraction. Commitment. Attachment. But liking is about the joy. Respect. Fun. And contentment. If you can look at your partner and say you genuinely LIKE them. Want to be with them. Can talk to them. Can be FRIENDS with them — then you’ve got something to hold on to.